Matt was a 32-year-old man who is in recovery for pornography addiction. He had four months of good sobriety using all the tools he’d been given. Now it was time to investigate the root cause(s) of his addiction. To do this, we used the O.A.T. model of addiction. Developed by British therapist Paula Hall (2019), […]
When Lou was confronted about his use of Internet pornography, his excuse was that he was tired of the “vanilla” sex he was having with his wife, Roberta. He claimed he needed more excitement in the bedroom. This left Roberta feeling both angry and sad. She felt as if Lou was blaming her for his […]
Ryan and Joanna came to my office feeling really hurt and discouraged. Finding out about Ryan’s pornography addiction left Joanna cycling through many emotions, but she mainly felt angry and alone. The betrayal was almost too much for her to handle. Knowing how deeply he hurt his wife, Ryan was committed to doing whatever it […]
By Peter C. Kleponis, Ph.D., SATP, CSAT When Monica discovered her husband Kyle’s pornography use she was devastated. Never did she think that he would ever do something so low. She felt hurt and betrayed. When she confronted him about it he confessed this was a longstanding problem; however, he promised her that he would […]
As we continue to navigate the changes in our society, one thing we know for sure is that anxiety, stress and depression are on the rise! It is no wonder! But did you know regular porn use is on the rise at alarming rates as well? Boredom, Loneliness, Anxiety, Stress, Tiredness and Depression, the “BLASTD effect” are common triggers for […]
By Erin McCole Cupp A Relationship Poisoned Their story could have been so different. They could have been childhood sweethearts, even though Alessandro was eight years her senior. In the Italian countryside of the early 20th century, it wouldn’t have been unheard of for them to wait until she was of marriageable age before […]
How do I Know if I’m Addicted? Because pornography is so widely used and accepted today, many people may wonder if they are addicted to it. According to Dr. Mark Laaser (1992) pornography/sexual addiction is “any persistent and escalating unhealthy pattern of sexual behavior. It is compulsive in nature and used to avoid or change […]
Our Catholic faith tells us that Jesus understands all our pain because he also experienced it. This is especially true of rejection. Throughout our lives we will experience rejection. The most painful rejection comes when we are rejected by loved ones. Jesus experienced this when his apostles abandoned him on the night before he was […]
Wow, what a penitential Lent we experienced this year. What a joy we have now to take part in the Resurrection of our Lord, albeit a change from our typical Easter Sunday. But like the first Apostles before Pentecost, we experienced something wonderful this year, whether in small family groups or alone. No matter how […]
Several months ago in a counseling session with a client, l’ll call him Steve, I asked him how he was working with his accountability partner for recovery. He admitted they hadn’t talked in a few weeks. When asked why, Steve stated that the phone calls had gotten very mundane. He and his accountability partner were […]
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