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Finding The “New Normal” in Recovery – Looking With Lust vs. Natural Attraction

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Our mission is to restore the integrity of individuals, spouses, and families that have been affected by pornography and pornography addiction. Integrity Restored provides education, encouragement, and resources to, break free from pornography, heal relationships, and to assist parents in preventing and responding to pornography exposure which is so devastating in the lives of our children. We also hope to be a resource that assists clergy in assisting families at the parish level, so that the domestic church truly becomes what it is, the human space in which we encounter Christ.

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Gregory MONNIN - June 20, 2018 8:59 am

Afraid to say,
Invasive thoughts are no accident;
rather preoccupation then later involuntary recall.
Stemming from my own personal experiences.
Over-sexed stimuli are the hypocrisy of the Hollywood, et. al. agenda,

I can’t thank them whatsoever.

Having been exposed since teenage years,

I redouble my efforts to exterminate p@rn at the reading of good works as

My Imitation of Christ – Thomas a Kempis – C.P.P.S. translation pocketbook,

The 12 Steps to Holiness and Salvation – St. Alphonsus Maire de LIGOURI, TAN Pub.,

and the Angelus Prayer first in act in the morning.

Christ Peace be to you.

May God Grace your ministry, and give big pardon to those struggling with the recovery/addiction de-escalation to ZERO tolerance.

My Very Sincerest,

Gregory In Albuquerque

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Fr. Andrew - June 20, 2018 11:27 am

I find this article very practical and very useful . I like, in particular the part that connects the dots and explains what is happening and why – in terms of ” flashes from the past”

Along the lines of what is being discussed in this article I would really like to see, down the road, something similar but focused on how to get rid of intrusive as well as obsessive thoughts of sexual nature ( thoughts that recall sexual events/experiences from one’s youth and early adolescence – and are not necessarily porn related, or sex abuse related but things of sexual nature none the less. I am referring here specifically to things such as in individual or even group “experimenting” with sex in preadolescence and adolescence – things like sexual touching of oneself and each other, masturbation, oral sex, even anal sex etc. Once again, I am talking here about experimentation . However because of the strong pleasure component associated with these experiments but also fear and shame, it seems like these things leave a very deep imprint in one’s mind are very difficult to overcome . Worse yet, these thoughts and feelings associated with them can come back at any give moment and as such become a source of one’s shame and frustration with oneself, which in turn increases the urge to either reach out for pornography or engage in masturbation etc. And so the vicious cycle continues. I have come across this problem numerous times and I am not sure how to deal with it- especially when the individual absolutely refuses seeing a professional counselor for whatever reasons.

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