Finding out about your husband’s porn use is devastating. For wives, it feels like an affair. Some wives are in so much pain, that they lie to themselves to avoid it–trying to minimize the hurt. Frequently, wives are afraid to confront their husband’s about the pain they experience. They’re worried their husband will get angry, […]
Addressing pornography, and all sexual sin, from the pulpit is definitely a daunting task. As priests, we stand in the tension between proclaiming the truth about the danger to souls posed by pornography and the fear of scandalizing those who are innocent. Sometimes we can even fail to teach the truth because we fear teaching […]
“As proof that you are children, God Sent the spirit of his Son into our hearts, crying out, “Abba, Father!” (Gal 4:6) As St Paul speaks these words to the Galatians, two realities shine forth. First, we are all children of God, which means that God wants the good for us, He is willing to […]
People often ask me for a broad overview of the recovery process. I view recovery as a three tiered process: Sobriety, Inner Healing, and Transformation. Sobriety Being sober means no longer using the substance to which you were addicted—pornography. Many people rate their success by the number of days, weeks, months or years of sobriety. […]
Twelve-step recovery groups have long been proven effective in helping addicts in recovery. However there are some who are reluctant to make these groups part of their recovery program. Here are five common objections and reasons to overcome them: 1. Fear The most difficult part of any recovery program is attending your first 12-step meeting. […]
Overcoming pornography addiction begins with being totally honest about your addiction and exposing the lies. Addicts will often lie to themselves and others and hide their behaviors. This is done to maintain their addiction and to hide their shame. One of my clients, Josh, would downplay the seriousness of his addiction by telling him self […]
It can be incredibly overwhelming to realize just how many men, women, and young people in our parishes are struggling with pornography use, and as indicated by the question, sometimes we aren’t really sure where to start. I’ve always found it best to break down the problem into parts. There are three main areas to […]
The following is an interview I had with Fr. Sean Kilcawley of the diocese of Lincoln, NE. Fr. Sean discusses how priests can better assist those who turn to them for help in breaking free from porn. Image via Flickr, CC 2.0, Logo added.
The largest single population of Internet pornography users is teenagers between the ages of 12 and 17. It’s no wonder that more and more boys are becoming addicted to it. However, the good news is, you can have a tremendous influence in their lives that will help them reject porn and avoid becoming addicted. As […]
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