One couple that is an inspiration to me in my work is Mark and Debra Laaser. Over 30 years ago, when they were a young married couple, Mark was pastor of a protestant church and a counselor. Unfortunately, Mark was also a pornography and sex addict. This led him to have sexual relationships with the […]
I remember feeling insane. Like a lunatic. I was too dizzy with hurt and emotion to discern what was real. I questioned everything I thought was true—his love for me, his professed chastity, why I married him in the first place, his fidelity. I hated him for deceiving me. I wanted to scream, “How could […]
When Tom and Bernadette came to my office for help for Tom’s addiction to Internet pornography they were both ready to work on recovery. Having done some research on addictions they knew that 12-step support groups were crucial for healthy recovery. However, they didn’t know which groups were needed or where to begin in finding […]
One of our long term goals for Integrity Restored is to provide a therapist listing where you can find a trustworthy mental health professional to provide counsel on the road to recovery. Many people have shared stories about their experiences of therapy. Some have had their marriages resurrected with the assistance of a skilled counselor, […]
When Chris came to me for help for his pornography addiction he sincerely wanted to uncover and resolve the root causes of his addiction. He had read stories about people addicted to pornography and sex who as children had been abused, neglected, or were raised by alcoholics. Because he had experienced none of these traumas in his life he […]
For many wives, discovering that their husband has been looking at porn can be traumatizing. According to Barbara Steffens and Marsha Means, authors of the book Your Sexually Addicted Spouse, 70 percent of wives dealing with spousal betrayal fit the criteria for PTSD. That’s right, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Steffens explains, “Once disclosure happens, and […]
When Karen discovered her husband’s pornography addiction, her world seemed to fall apart. She felt deeply hurt and betrayed. Suddenly the man she had been married to for fifteen years was a total stranger to her. She felt she could never trust him again. She did not feel safe with him. She moved into another bedroom and wouldn’t allow […]
When Lou was confronted about his use of Internet pornography, his excuse was that he was tired of the “vanilla” sex he was having with his wife, Roberta. He claimed he needed more excitement in the bedroom. This left Roberta feeling both angry and sad. She felt as if Lou was blaming her for his pornography use. She […]
Scott had been married a year when he began to have difficulty having sex with his wife. He was finding it more difficult to achieve and maintain an erection with her. At the age of 30 he couldn’t believe he was struggling with erectile dysfunction! He consulted his family doctor about it and was referred […]
I was recently interviewed by Patrick Coffin on Catholic Answers Live. It was a one hour show in which I took questions from people coming from different perspectives (spouses; individuals; parents). I hope this show will be a blessing to you.
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