By Fr Sean Kilcawley One of the common challenges for men in recovery is to figure out “what is normal” and distinguish that from the effects of past pornography consumption. While it is true that pornography consumption leads to the objectification of others, preoccupation with sexual thoughts and fantasies, a darkened intellect, and weakness of […]
The Motion Picture Association of America Movies developed a rating system for movies, ranging from G (General Audience) to NC-17 (Adults Only.) The thought is that this should help parents discern which movie is appropriate for their family. Unfortunately, Hollywood has become so pornified that hypersexualized content can end up in movies of all ratings, […]
By Fr. Sean Kilcawley, STL I have always loved technology. When I was a cadet at West Point, we all had to pick an engineering track, and I chose computer science. So I was one of the first of my peers to get a smartphone and among the first to learn to jailbreak it. I […]
In my previous post I wrote about distinctions in addiction patterns, specifically addressing biological, psychological, and trauma-based addiction. One reason you or someone you are helping might be “stuck in the confessional” is that there is a psychological wound or trauma that needs to be addressed by a trained therapist. Another reason people get “stuck […]
About a year ago, a priest approached me at a conference and made the following observation. “My students today seem different than they were a few years ago. It used to be that when someone was struggling with pornography and masturbation, I could recommend filters and a more structured prayer life and that would take […]
Pornography is a big problem in our society, particularly among young people. What many people don’t realize is how addictive pornography is. We now have the neuroscience evidence to show us that pornography is an addictive substance. Many experts call Internet pornography the new crack cocaine. So how is pornography addictive? Well, whenever we discuss […]
For most of my life, I have had a strange relationship with my body. I used to hate her and tried to destroy her by drinking alcohol, doing drugs, and binge eating. I used to use her, trading her as currency to anyone who dated me, hoping to get love in exchange for sex. I […]
If you haven’t yet subscribed to our podcast on iTunes, you can do that here. In today’s podcast I talk about how to avoid common pitfalls people can often fall into after a relapse, and how to actually use a relapse as a means of growth. In the podcast I mention a recent debate I […]
Before we jump into today’s blog I want to offer a shoutout to Gary Wilson, founder of YourBrainOnPorn.com. It was Gary who helped me formulate my answer to this objection. Gary, I think it’s safe to say, knows more about porn’s impact on the brain than any other human on the planet. Thanks Gary. I […]
If you haven’t yet subscribed to our podcast on iTunes, do can do that here. In this podcast I chat with Fr. Sean Kilcawley about the three things that, when done together, bear the most fruit when it comes to recovering from porn addiction: group, therapy, and spiritual direction. Find a 12 step group here. […]
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