Here are 3 things you can do to celebrate the Christmas season in the midst of tension in your marriage:
Focus only on the things/events that you feel will have a long-term impact on your family (such as creating a good memory). This is not the season to fill your calendar with events simply because it’s Christmas. Pick a few events that you feel will bond your family and maybe even your marriage. Put your energy into those. It could be a Christmas concert, making gingerbread houses, or ice skating. There are hundreds of options. However, if you have a packed schedule of things you don’t want to do, that will show. Focus on traditions that you know your kids will remember. That way, even if it’s hard to be in the same room as your husband right now, you will be able to think long-term and make it through an event because you know it will have long-term value for your family.
Ask St. Augustine to intercede. St. Augustine lived a depraved and hedonistic life before his conversion. And not just a few months of this lifestyle. Decades. He was a disgusting mess, if we’re being completely honest. But God called out to his cold heart and St. Augustine was transformed. There is nothing too challenging for God; no sin can defeat the cross. Ask St. Augustine to pray for your husband’s heart and a transformation in your marriage.
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