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Pornography and Marriage: Eight Myths

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Dr. Peter Kleponis Dr. Peter Kleponis

Peter C. Kleponis, Ph.D., SATP-C is a Licensed Clinical Therapist and Assistant Director of Comprehensive Counseling Services in Conshohocken, PA. He holds an M.A. in Clinical-Counseling Psychology and a Ph.D. in General Psychology. Dr. Kleponis has over 18 years of professional experience working with individuals, couples, families and organizations. He specializes in marriage & family therapy, pastoral counseling, and pornography/sexual addiction recovery. He is Certified in the Diagnosisand Treatment of Sexual Addictions by The American Association of Christian Counselors' Light University, by Dr. Mark Laaser's Freedom Begins Here Program, and by Dr. Todd Bowman’s SATP program. Dr. Kleponis has been a guest on several EWTN television programs including Women of Grace, Franciscan University Presents, Crossing the Goal, EWTN Bookmark, and At Home with Jim & Joy. He is also a regular guest on Relevant Radio's On-Call program. Dr. Kleponis travels throughout the country educating people on how to win the battle against pornography through his Fighting Porn in Our Culture…and Winning! program. He is the author of two books, The Pornography Epidemic: A Catholic Approach (2012) and Integrity Restored: Helping Catholic Families Win the Battle Against Pornography (2014). Dr. Kleponis is also founder of the Integrity Starts Here Catholic recovery program for pornography and sexual addiction. He works with individuals and couples from around the United States and internationally in-person, by phone, and by Skype. For more information see his website, www.peterkleponis.com.

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kc - January 19, 2020 9:10 pm

“Thus, if the pornography user was addicted prior to the start of the relationship, it was never healthy to begin with. Having a healthy marriage does not mean going back to the way things used to be. It means forging a new, better and flourishing marital relationship.”

If being a porn addict prevents forming a healthy relationship, then how can one ever have a “flourishing” marital relationship. No matter how much time has passed the person is still a porn addict, even if they aren’t acting out. It’s been nineteen years since I discovered my husbands addiction. You are lying to people. Men hide the addiction while we are dating/engaged, we eventually discover it because we are trying to figure out what is wrong with our marriage relationship, and then discover we are faced with a life sentence of being married to a porn addict with no chance of anything improving ever. There is no forging of anything better and flourishing. There is only accepting loss, saying goodbye to any hope of a meaningful marital bond, and looking forward to release from this prison called marriage through death one day.

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    Administrator - January 21, 2020 11:12 am

    Dear KC:

    I understand your pain and discouragement. However, every day thousands of couples who face pornography addiction are working on forging a new marital relationship. They realize what they had from the beginning was not a healthy relationship. Thus, they are committed to creating a new courtship and marriage. This new relationship is based on love, honesty, and respect. This can take time and there are many bumps in the road along the way. However, if BOTH spouses are committed to this, they can create the marriage they’ve always wanted. Struggling with pornography addiction or being married to a porn addict, doesn’t need to be a live sentence, Healing, growth, and change are possible. If you are still struggling with this, I recommend scheduling a phone session with my associate, Colleen Jewell at 610-397-0960. Don’t lose hope. Freedom from porn is possible!

    Sincerely,
    Peter C. Kleponis, Ph.D., L.P.C., SATP, CSAT
    Comprehensive Counseling Services
    and The Institute for Marital Healing
    101 W. Elm Street, Suite 320
    Conshohocken, PA 19428
    610-397-0960
    http://www.IntegrityRestored.com
    http://www.PeterKleponis.com

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