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If you’re reading this page, you’re probably concerned about protecting your children from pornography. Or you may have a child who is struggling with pornography use and you are seeking help for him/her. Either way, you’re in the right place. In this introduction, you will find tips on protecting youth and helping those who struggle. More detailed information will be provided on more specific pages of this website.

Protecting Young Children

Protecting young children from pornography can be a daunting task. The average age when a child if first exposed to hard core internet pornography is 11. 80% of 15-18 year olds have had multiple exposures to hard-core pornography. The largest single population of Internet pornography users are 12-17 year-olds. While it may seem like pornography is everywhere, you need not feel helpless. While we will have specific webpages for protecting children, here are some things that you can do right now.

Here are some things that you can do right now

1. Limit all screen time to less than 2 hours a day. This includes television, computer, cell phone, tablet, video games, etc.

2. Supervise your child’s use of the Internet. Never leave him/her alone with the internet.

3. Use internet filtering software, such as Covenant Eyes.

4. Teach your children modesty in dress and to respect their bodies and other people’s bodies.

5. Teach your children to come talk to you if they see a person who is not properly clothed.

These tips will help you protect your young children’s innocence. They will be able to enjoy childhood and their development won’t be traumatized by pornography.

Preparing Teens

Since the average age when a child encounters online pornography is 11, I believe anyone 11 and older needs to be educated on the dangers of pornography. They need to know how harmful it is so they will be able to reject it when they encounter it. And believe me, they will encounter it. It will find them. We will also have a specific webpage for preparing teens.

Here are some things you can do now to help your teen(s).

1. Limit screen time to less than three hours a day.

2. Learn about the dangers of pornography together with your teen(s). Fathers should do this with sons and mothers should do this with daughters.

3. Use Internet accountability software on all the devices your family uses that have access to the internet. Covenant Eyes offers excellent accountability software.

4. Never let a teen isolate with the internet.

5. Stress to your teen the importance of respecting other people and not using them sexually.

Even the best educated teens may fall from time to time and view pornography. However, by educating them on the dangers of pornography, you will still be giving them the tools to ultimately reject it. This will enable them to have a happy and healthy teenage experience. They will be able to grow into mature and virtuous young adults. You will be helping them not become addicted to porn as teens and as young adults.

In addition to protecting children and educating teens, the best source of prevention is a healthy parent-child relationship. When your kids know you care about them and are interested in their lives, they will talk to you about their struggles. They will want your advice. This requires taking an active role in their lives. Become interested in what they are doing in school, go to their sporting events, class plays and concerts. Make one-on-one time for them and listen. Knowing you’re on their side will help keep them on the straight and narrow path.

Helping Teens

Many teens today are trapped in the chains of pornography addiction. Because of their shame they fear telling their parents. If you discover your teen struggling with pornography use, it’s important not to shame him. Let him know you understand how addictive pornography can be and that you want to help him. The next step is to find a therapist who can help him with his recovery process. If you cannot find one in your area, you can check out the therapist listing page on this website. A therapist who is trained to treat sexual addiction can develop an effective recovery program for your teen. It’s important for him to know that he is not alone, that you care about him and are willing to get him whatever help is necessary for his recovery.