When it comes to pornography use in marriages, there are many myths that need to be dispelled. Doing so can improve a couple’s ability to heal and restore their personal lives and their marriages. Here are eight common myths I’ve found in the couples I’ve worked with over the years. Myth #1: Viewing Pornography […]
I’ve been told multiple times—usually by disgruntled teachers who disagree with my presentation on the problem of porn—that the DSM (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders) put out by the APA (American Psychological Association) has rejected sex addiction/porn addiction. To suggest that it exists, they say, is not only untrue but potentially harmful. It […]
It’s often a shock when parents discover their kids have been viewing Internet pornography. They often react in anger, punishing their kids. However, before reacting, it’s important for parents to step back and realize what has happened to their kids. Consider this true story. The Problem Brandon is twelve years old. Recently, his parents […]
Every day we are faced with challenges. Sometimes we succeed! Other days, well, we fail—and we’re humbled by it, aren’t we? One of the everyday challenges for Christians is the challenge to remove what our culture presents as “nourishment for life,” but what I like to call “junk food.” This includes things like going into […]
One couple that is an inspiration to me in my work is Mark and Debra Laaser. Over 30 years ago, when they were a young married couple, Mark was pastor of a protestant church and a counselor. Unfortunately, Mark was also a pornography and sex addict. This led him to have sexual relationships with the […]
I’m writing this article as a plea to parents to protect your daughters (as well as your sons) from the harms of pornography. The first time I was exposed to pornography, I was only a 9-year-old girl. I didn’t have to look for it—rather, it found me. I was playing a game on a children’s […]
I remember feeling insane. Like a lunatic. I was too dizzy with hurt and emotion to discern what was real. I questioned everything I thought was true—his love for me, his professed chastity, why I married him in the first place, his fidelity. I hated him for deceiving me. I wanted to scream, “How could […]
When Tom and Bernadette came to my office for help for Tom’s addiction to Internet pornography they were both ready to work on recovery. Having done some research on addictions they knew that 12-step support groups were crucial for healthy recovery. However, they didn’t know which groups were needed or where to begin in finding […]
Since the dawn of the World Wide Web, the Internet has been used for all kinds of purposes, some for good and some for evil. Among the most heinous of Internet crimes is that of predation, which is using the medium of the Internet to communicate with those you intend to physically or sexual abuse. […]
To truly understand pornography addiction we must first define it. Note that pornography addiction is a type of sex addiction. Although there are many definitions for sex addiction, the one I like best was developed by Dr. Mark Laaser: Sexual addiction is “any persistent and escalating unhealthy pattern of sexual behavior. It is compulsive in nature, and used […]
