Several months ago in a counseling session with a client, l’ll call him Steve, I asked him how he was working with his accountability partner for recovery. He admitted they hadn’t talked in a few weeks. When asked why, Steve stated that the phone calls had gotten very mundane. He and his accountability partner were […]
Tom was noticeably upset as he described his frustration with pornography use. It seemed that every day at work he would end up going online and viewing pornography. No matter what he tried, he always seemed to fall into the same pattern. For Tom, the root causes of his internet porn use were boredom, isolation, […]
Marty has a strong belief in God; however, he struggled to understand God’s unconditional love for him. Marty’s struggle with pornography addiction left him feeling worthless and unlovable, especially in God’s eyes. For Marty, a large part of recovery is understanding how God can be both just and merciful. This is a struggle I find […]
by Peter C. Kleponis, Ph.D., SATP, CSAT When it comes to pornography use and marriages, there are several myths that need to be dispelled. Doing so can improve a couple’s ability to heal and restore their personal lives and their marriages. Here are eight common myths I’ve found in the couples I’ve worked with over […]
By Peter C. Kleponis, Ph.D., SATP-C Often people who are enslaved by pornography addiction only see the problems with their lives. They are trapped in a cycle of negativity and pessimism. They live with bitterness, resentment, and feel unworthy of receiving anything good in their lives, especially love. In Alcoholics Anonymous this is called “stinking […]
By Peter C. Kleponis, Ph.D., SATP, CSAT While working on developing his recovery program, I asked Mike about his relationship with God. He admitted he was frustrated with God. He has prayed fervently that God would deliver him from his addiction. Unfortunately, he received little response. He was still trapped in his pornography addiction. I […]
By Peter C. Kleponis, Ph.D., SATP, CSAT-C According to Dr. Patrick Carnes, counseling is a key component to successful recovery for both the addicted person and the affected spouse. With pornography addiction, the pornography use is usually the symptom. The question is “What is the root cause of it?” Often it is the need to […]
By Peter C. Kleponis, Ph.D., SATP, CSAT-C Growing up, Len experienced much emotional turmoil in his home. It seemed like his parents were constantly yelling at him or at each other. There was never any sense of peace in the house. Everyone always seemed angry. As a teen, Len discovered Internet porn, and it became […]
By Peter C. Kleponis, PhD, SATP, CSAT-C In a blog post I recently read on NoFapp.com, men posted stories about how building with Legos helped them overcome their addiction to pornography and masturbation: (https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/100-days-and-100-legos-later.12936/). This doesn’t surprise me. One of the keys to healthy recovery is to develop healthy hobbies. While I hate to make […]
by Peter C. Kleponis, Ph.D., SATP, CSAT-C Many people who struggle with pornography use wonder if they might be addicted to it. Here are six common warning signs for addiction: Viewing pornography frequently or binging:There are many ways that people who are addicted can use pornography. For some, there is a need to view it […]
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